Starting a new job, moving to a new city, meeting the in-laws. These are all times when we’re placed within a new social setting and probably don’t know many (if any) people. Welcome to the daunting task of earning respect from other people. Well, at least it seems daunting if you don’t know where to start. But with these three psychological tricks, you can earn more respect from people.
Show that you’re competent and kind
Whether you’re starting out in a new company or trying to make new connections, you need to show that you’re both a warm and competent person. So, if you have a job to complete, follow through and do it. If you make a promise, commit to it and avoid dropping the ball.
But don’t just put your noise to the grind and prove yourself. It’s also important to show that you’re genuinely interested in others. For one thing, it takes the pressure and focus off of you. For another thing, it helps people feel valued and important.
It’s okay to not be perfect
If you’re in a new setting, there will be lots to learn and lots to get used to. It’s hard to admit this, and it’s even worse when we mess up.
But instead of being a perfectionist, remember that it’s perfectly alright to ask questions, admit when you’re wrong and keep an open mind.
Find out what makes people tick
If you want to get on well with people, get to know their personality and what they’re good at. This will help you navigate conversations, create realistic expectations and help you build relationships.