Since leaving the White House as the first African American First Lady, Michelle Obama has been greatly missed by women across the country. To the joy of her fans, the former FLOTUS is returning to the public stage with the release of her memoir, Becoming. In it, Obama opens up about her marriage, her miscarriage and her happiness. And her words are resonating deeply.

Michelle Obama’s thoughts on miscarriage

When trying to have their first child, Obama writes, “It turns out that even two committed go getters with a deep love and robust work ethic can’t will themselves into getting pregnant.” 

And even though the Obamas did succeed in getting pregnant, it ended in miscarriage. Why is Obama talking about her miscarriage now? In an interview with Good Morning America, Obama explains, “I felt lost and alone and I felt like I failed because I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them.”

Her solution? To talk about miscarriages.

As Obama explained, “I think it’s the worst thing that we do to each other as women is not share the truth about our bodies, about how they work and how they don’t work.”

Michelle on marriage

In Becoming, Obama makes it very clear that marriage isn’t always easy. But many young couples still think it is, and Obama wants these people to know that it’s not and that there’s no shame in getting help. 

In her GMA interview, Obama said, “I know too many young couples who struggle and think that somehow there’s something wrong with them. And I want them to now that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other, we work on our marriage.”

 Michelle Obama on happiness

While in marriage counseling, Obama realized that she – not her husband – was responsible for her own happiness. She shares that “What I learned about myself is that my happiness was up to me. So, I started working out more and I started asking for help more. I stopped feeling guilty. It was important for me to take care of myself.”